Okay, he dumped you. You have nearly convinced yourself that he is a pathetic, horrible loser who didn’t deserve you anyway (NEARLY). Now What?
- Here are my 5 top tips to get you through your break up:
Tip 1: Call A Friend – IMMEDIATELY!
Call in back up – your closest friend who will grab you tissues, be your psychologist (without the fees), reassure you that you are better off without him and who will listen. Having someone you trust around who you know won’t judge and will offer full support will make even the hardest break up feel a little better.
Tip 2: Be Sad. Be Mad.
Allow yourself to feel, suppressing feelings will only hurt you in the long run. Be sad – cry until you can’t cry anymore, play sad songs, watch rom coms, eat ice-cream. Be mad – play women power songs as loud as you can and sing as badly as you want (try a little Gloria, Kelly, Alanis or Taylor), call your trusted friend and rant, start a boxing class. The sooner you deal with these the sooner you will start feeling happy again – and that’s the most important emotion.
Tip 3: Delete EVERYTHING!
I know you have the sudden urge to stalk him on Facebook and check out every new girl he has added, I know you want to call him after a few Tequilas and confess how much you miss him. BUT DON’T! Delete every means of contact it will help you kick the “ex habit” to make sure you keep your sanity and dignity. Delete old messages, photos and anything else that will remind you of your time together (they will only upset you and make you want to go back. If he dumped you there is no need to keep reminders of him around you – move on.
Tip 4: Keep Yourself Occupied.
Keep your mind busy. Read, start projects on Pinterest, start a new hobby, go to gym, watch a new series (I watched all of Sex and The City during one of my break ups), go out with friends, take a road trip. Finding new things to occupy your time will keep your mind off the break up and help you move forward whilst adding value to your life through new experiences.
Tip 5: Give Yourself Time.
According to Carrie in Sex and The City “it takes half the amount of time you dated someone to get over them”. I don’t think dating is an exact science but give yourself time to heal before you get back up, dust yourself off and launch into into the dating world again. Take some time for yourself and reevaluate who you are and what you want without another person in your life. That way when you start dating again you won’t be talking about your ex and you’ll have a real chance at meeting someone who is right for you.
The Lady Of Write 